Questions, Education, Emotional Labour, Frustration, Normalization, Relationships, Effort
Pa: I’m, there’s never enough questions for me—
Kate: Hm-hmm.
Pa: because I think they could go on Google and get the wrong answer—
Tara: (laughs)
Pa: Right? Right? So I am, I am all for it because any time someone asks me a question, to me they’re, they’ve made an effort, I believe they’ve made a lot of effort, so, to, to ask that question. So, never, never enough.
Kate: Yeah.
Zena: Probably for me, the only question that I’m tired of is “Where are you from?”
Pa: (laughs)
Tara: Yep.
Kate: Right, yeah.
Zena: That’s the only one I’m tired of. Because to me, that assumes that I’m not from here.
Pa: Yep.
Kate: Right.
Zena: And I, it’s got nothing to do with—it’s got everything to do with what you see and nothing to do with who I am and so I, that’s the only thing that I’m frustrated with. And I’ve had people ask me different things about, “Well, who had who?” And I’m like, more than happy—the fact that you even asked is great!
Kate: Hm-mm.
Pa: Hm-mm.
Zena: I want you to ask. I want those questions. It’s not that I feel that it’s my responsibility, but, actually, maybe I do.
Tara: Yeah.
Pa: Hmm.
Zena: I’m not going to come out and invite it and preach it but I really do want people to ask me. And if I don’t feel like it, I’ll kind of let you know. I’ll skirt around it in some way.
Pa: I like when they ask that, I like it when they ask that--
Zena: Yeah.
Pa: Like, Zena’s a numbers person and Tristin’s a numbers person--
Tara: Yeah.
Zena: (laughs) Yeah.
Pa: Uh, Zena was never a really morning person, Tristin’s not a morning person.
Tristin: I’m a morning person. Actually, no, I’m not.
Pa: No, you’re not.
Zena: No, you’re not. (group laughter)
Pa: Ely and I can get out of bed in 5 seconds (Ely snaps his fingers) and be ready to go for the day. Ely’s a swimmer and I was a swimmer. Um, yeah--
Ely: Yeah, and we have no blood relation at all.
Zena: I’m a swimmer!
Tristin: And I’m an ok swimmer!
Pa: This is why I like questions. There’s no—(motioning to Ely) right? And just—(motioning to Tristin and Zena) right? And so--
Tristin: (to Zena) We’re just better.
Zena: (laughs) That’s true.
Pa: (to Tristin and Zena) You guys are—that’s why I like questions because I love blowing people’s minds a little. And I think people need to realize how normal we are and also how cool we are, because I think that’s really important.