LGBTQ Families Speak Out
  • Home
  • About
    • About the Project
    • About the Team
  • Videos
    • Toronto Area >
      • Alec
      • Bev
      • Catherine & Nazbah
      • Dale
      • Garrett
      • Ian, Ben, & Alexis
      • Jae & Daya
      • Jess & Evan
      • Karleen
      • Kevin & Mohan
      • Kiran
      • Lara
      • Mary
      • Nicole & Mita
      • Ruby & Wendy
      • Sarah
      • Skinner Family >
        • Skinner Parents
        • Stella & Jess
        • Stella
        • Skinner Kids
      • Victoria
    • London Area >
      • Zena & Pa
    • Ottawa Area >
      • Dawn
      • Michael & Ernst
    • Sudbury Area >
      • Brenda & Nim
      • Allie & Melissa
      • Anna
      • Dan & Chantale
      • Robin
      • Syn
      • Tobie & Andréa
      • Vincent
    • Themes >
      • Activism
      • Advice for Teachers
      • Allyship
      • Bullying
      • Community: people, resources and programs
      • Curriculum
      • Early Years & Elementary School
      • Family Structures
      • Gender Identity & Expression
      • High School
      • Indigeneity
      • Intersectionality
      • Law, Policy, & Human Rights
      • Politics of "Out"ness
      • Pride
      • Race
      • Religion
      • School Culture
      • Teacher Education
  • Out At School
    • Out at School, An Introduction
    • Out at School, Toronto Pride, 2019
    • Out At School Audio Play, 2021
  • Publications

Nicole & Mita: Dealing with School Bullying

29/6/2018

0 Comments

 

Keywords:
bullying, school climate, advocacy, mental health, intervention, guidance counsellor, problem-solving, classroom climate
Transcript

Tara: How well has your daughter’s school dealt with bullying incidents? Did it happen to your daughters, to their friends, to classmates?

Nicole: It happened to both of them.

Tara: To both of them.

Nicole: Yah, and it’s um –the older one was a little afraid to talk about it ‘cause she didn’t want to make a big scene and stuff and decided to deal with it on her own, and sometimes the teachers wouldn’t take them seriously about it, like they would tell them, go deal with that, stop coming and telling me things.

Tara: Right.

Nicole: It was difficult for a while there. ‘Cause they’re both very vocal too. They’ll say, you know, “So-and-so has been bullying me” and the teacher would sometimes say, “Well stop, you know, coming to me with these problems, they’ll call you a tattle-tale”.

Tara: Wow.

Mita: “You need to sort it out and figure it out” and um, yah, we ended up having to get involved, and say, “Okay, this is how you navigate this particular incident, that this is unacceptable. And she didn’t want to come to us, because she said, “Which one of you is going to go deal with this? I don’t want you guys dealing with this, I didn’t want you mad at me or this person, or you know—so I didn’t tell anybody, and she was dealing with some pretty heavy issues. There’s the bullying, there’s a friend of hers who’s started cutting because- who was being bullied and had issues of things going on at home, and she felt that if we got involved then her parents would get involved and it would just escalate and she didn’t want that. So she didn’t want to tell anybody for a bit and then, um, yah that one was a little challenging in making her deal with it and feel empowered that she can, but it’s okay to ask for help as well.

Tara: Ideally, what would her teacher have said, what could a principal have done to resolve the issue in a way that would have been satisfactory?

Mita: I would have liked to have seen an earlier intervention from the guidance counsellor.

Tara: Yah.

Mita: Take them aside so it’s not interfering with school per se…

Tara: Right.

Mita: But to have a talk about, um, what’s going on and come up with creative problem solving and perhaps have that person who is bullying them in on the conversation. And say what’s going on with them that’s causing this behaviour. Behaviours don’t come up out of vacuums. So what is it about this kid that’s making them act out like that? Is there something going on at home for them? Are they having challenges? Are they being bullied? Or, or not feeling empowered somewhere, so how do we build them up? So that they don’t need to do this.

Tara: Right.

Nicole: I’d like to see the teachers, um, bring the whole class into it to find solutions on how to stop the bullying. To ask the kids and have the kids tell them how to deal with it.

Tara: So everybody learns.

Nicole: Yes.

Mita: And do that right at the beginning of every –every school year. Have the entire class in on it.

​
0 Comments

Your comment will be posted after it is approved.


Leave a Reply.

    Transcripts

    Transcripts are available for each video clip.  Click on "read more" under each video for access.

    Tags

    All
    Acceptance
    Activism
    Advice
    Advocacy
    Advocacy: Self
    Advocacy: Trans
    Allies
    Arts
    Assumptions
    Books
    Bullying
    Catholic School
    Celebration
    Coming Out
    Community
    Community Resources
    Consent
    Conversion Therapy
    Disability
    Discrimination
    Diversity
    Education
    Equity
    Family: Chosen
    Family Dynamics
    Family Life
    Family Planning
    Family Structure
    Family Structure: Multi Parent
    Family Structure: Poly
    French
    Friends
    Gender Identity & Expression
    Gender Neutral Bathrooms
    Gender Transition
    GSA
    Healthcare
    Heteronormativity
    Homophobia
    Human Rights
    Identity
    Identity: Names & Pronouns
    Identity: Non Binary
    Identity: Trans
    Inclusive Language
    Inclusivity
    Indigenous Culture & Teachings
    Intersectionality
    Legal Issues
    Love
    Marginalized Communities
    Mental Health
    Mother's & Father's Day
    Parenting
    Participant: Kiran
    Participants: Alec
    Participants: Allie & Melissa
    Participants: Anna
    Participants: Bev
    Participants: Brenda & Nim
    Participants: Catherine & Nazbah
    Participants: Dale
    Participants: Dan & Chantale
    Participants: Dawn
    Participants: Garrett
    Participants: Ian Ben Alexis
    Participants: Jae & Daya
    Participants: Jess & Evan
    Participants: Karleen
    Participants: Kevin & Mohan
    Participants: Lara
    Participants: Mary
    Participants: Michael & Ernst
    Participants: Nicole & Mita
    Participants: Robin
    Participants: Ruby & Wendy
    Participants: Sarah
    Participants: Skinner Family
    Participants: Skinner Kids
    Participants: Skinner Parents
    Participants: Stella
    Participants: Stella & Jess
    Participants: Syn
    Participants: Tobie & Andrea
    Participants: Victoria
    Participants: Vincent
    Participants: Zena & Pa
    Policy
    Positive Space
    Poverty
    Power & Privilege
    Pride
    Professional Development
    Race & Racism
    Religion
    Representation
    Resistance
    Resources
    Role Model
    Rural
    Safety
    School Administration
    School: Alternative
    School Culture
    School: Curriculum
    School: Grades 7:12
    School: PreK Grade 6
    School: Sex Ed
    Support
    Teachers & Teaching
    Transphobia
    Visibility

Proudly powered by Weebly