family, three parent family, negotiation, listen, co-parenting, communication, calm
Tara: So Alexis, did things change for you at all once you realized that you were probably going to be three parents rather than, uh, two? Was that something that you had to think about or talk about with, uh, with both the boys?
Alexis: Um, actually, no. I think I was almost as nonchalant about Ben as he was about Joshua. But, uh, but we had discussed that at length before, um, that if there is going to be a new partner, the, we would talk about it together, and, uh, the promise that we made when we were doing our co-parenting agreement, was that the other person had to listen. Like, they had no choice. So if you had something you felt like you had to say, the other person had to listen, and consider it. But then I met Ben a couple months before Joshua was born, and yah, he seemed good. [Laughter] Yah, I don’t know. I met a couple, one or two of Ian’s other boyfriends, um, so – so I was happy when I met Ben. So I don’t know, he seemed calm. He seemed really – he just makes a room calmer when he’s in it, which is – you really can’t get enough of that, right? Especially in a family.