positive, welcoming, two moms, teachers, school forms, databases
Tara: So tell us a little bit about their experiences at school. Some folks don’t have an easy time working with the schools. What was your experience like?
Shelby: Yeah. We consider ourselves very, very fortunate, in that we’ve had a very positive experience at school with two moms. You know for our son, where he’s much older, five years difference between the two kids. And the teachers, because there’s that five years difference, we’ve actually had different teachers for him than for her, even though they’ve been at the same school. But right from day one with Junior Kindergarten, it was very welcoming. Usually there’s an October - school starts in September and in October there’s a meet the teacher, and very early on, it was just incredibly welcoming and easy, no issues there. And no issues with other kids saying “What, two moms?” In fact, at different times through the years, our son would come home and say “Some of the kids think I’m really lucky to have two moms, and they wish they had two moms. And I’m so lucky to have two parents, you know, whereas some kids only have one.” So there seemed to be a real um, recognition of various kinds of families, and that’s a lot of the language that we would use too. In some ways, things paved the way for us, because we had some friends who had two daughters at the school who had been before us, and I think, and the 2 dads, and I think in a way that kind of paved the way a little bit at that school for us. In terms of them expecting a couple of parents. There’s the normal thing where sheets come home and it will say you know, parent and other parent, and there’s a sense that it needs to be a male and female, the mother and father business. And we always scratch it out and write parent and parent. And send those things back. But you just try not to let that stuff bother you, you wish it was a little different, you know the same way that when you fly on the airplane and they ask you for your gender, and why isn’t there a place for other. Why? The databases just haven’t caught up yet.