family, medical issues, visibility, family involvement, volunteering
Ernst: We also I think made sure that when there was a new beginning for Clara or Milena that we were all together. So there wasn’t the general assumption that would happen just because we were not together. So, beginning of school we are always together. And Milena starts ballet we are always together. And just that that gentle visual of seeing our children with their parents will I think will be a better start for the people around them and around us. So there is never… next to no kind of questions of where is your mom or things that happen just naturally because of our community and our culture, right. Those things do happen occasionally like when we go to the hospital or when we take our child to the doctors and the nurse leans over and says isn't that nice that the dad took off instead of mom. And then you know our daughter would look at us and say: what does she mean.
Michael: What is she talking about?
Ernst: One time Clara had an ear infection and we went to CHEO, to the emergency, or the emergency nurse asked Clara what her mom gave her last for medicine. She’s like “Hmm, do you mean my Papa?” So those things are you know, but they don't happen very often. And we are always together when it comes to those times. And people are open to that.
Michael: We’ve never really given schools much of a choice when it comes to-
Tara: Tell us about that.
Michael: We’ve just always been very out and open and there and you know among Clara’s and Milena’s friends and teachers and we volunteer and you know nothing noteworthy or whatever. But we have just been very present in their lives at school.