homophobia, gay father, school forms, gendered language, normal families
Garrett: Davray’s birthday, and the plan was the birthday party was supposed to happen, and my ex got called away because of their work and so suddenly it was going to be me present, and so most of the parents pulled their kids.
Garrett: And actually I shouldn’t say most. All of the parents…
Tara: How painful…
Garrett: Pulled their kids. So nobody was there for the birthday and how do you explain that? Because they didn’t want to leave their kid with the gay dad.
Tara: I’m so sorry.
Tara: I feel like I’ve been punched in the stomach.
Tara: Yah. That’s very painful.
Garrett: In school there were those, just those – what teachers think are innocent or harmless, but you know, names or permission forms, and I remember, um, Davray, at one point – this was high school, grade nine or ten – and the parent was – or the teacher was reminding, “Make sure you get your permission form signed” for the field trip. But, was he saying it that way, “I need mum or dad’s permission”, and apparently Davray put their hand up and said, “or dad or dad”. And… my kids are activists too, right? [Laughter] Or dad or dad! And it was kind of “Yeah, okay. Or dad or dad”, and then said it again the next day, and Davray put their hand up again and said, “You mean, or dad or dad”, and the teacher actually responded, “Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I was referring to those with normal families”.